I have this theory that the Universe, God, intuition, (whatever you want to call whatever it is that guides us through life) communicates with us constantly. It might be the quiet certainty that spurs us to follow a challenging path or the sudden decision to jump in a cab rather than walk home. Oftentimes we don’t even think; we simply respond and it is only in hindsight that we can see the guiding force behind a decision.
Other times, we are deaf and unwilling or unable to hear anything. At times like this it may take several attempts for us to tune in and be open to possibility. I describe it like this:
At first God whispers gently in my ear, maybe even more than once. Then She kindly catches my hand as she whispers again. Next time Her voice rises a little and she squeezes my hand. Still nothing. It may be three episodes or twenty but I finally pay attention when She hits me upside the head with a baseball bat!!
I have had a few baseball-bat communications in my life and I am learning to listen sooner. The message is always appreciated, I am just getting older and more gentle communication is certainly my preference.
Mum was invited to one of ‘her’ Marine’s weddings and begged me to go with her. At 19, I rarely spent time with Mum’s work crowd and I grumbled but finally agreed, it was a Tuesday after all and the perfect excuse to miss class. The ceremony went well and we all spilled out of the church to watch the bride and groom emerge through the Guard of Honor (4 other Marines holding swords in an arch).
And that’s when it happened. My knees buckled, my heart went all aflutter and I fell head over heels in love. It was the same Marine I had walked home from town with just a few days prior and felt nothing for. What happened?
I first met Tom in September 1985 when Mum introduced us and I was unimpressed (whisper). We walked home from town together on Valentine’s Day and I remained unimpressed (poking the arm). But on February 18th, 1986, I was bowled over and I have loved him every day ever since.
How do we get better at following the guidance?
- Practice. The more you ask and open to the answers, the more readily the answers will come.
- Start with smaller decisions – which paint color will help my home feel welcoming? rather than should I choose The Peace Corps or Grad school?
- Spend time with yourself, in prayer or meditation. Quiet reflection is invaluable.
- Use tools like yoga or Tai Chi to become better at tuning into your body, mind and soul.
I am grateful that the Universe does not give up when trying to communicate with me. I am grateful for 30 years of loving a man who might just as easily have slipped past me.