Is there something you want to change in your life? Perhaps you want to be healthier, maybe you want to quit smoking, do you want to strengthen your relationships or improve your bank balance?
Any one of these goals seems to require untold shifts and changes in your life and can be overwhelming, which is why we so often express the desire but never actually follow through. Take a step back, sit down with a cup of tea and an index card and be ready to have your world changed!!
Ready??? First of all, write down the one thing you most want to change (yes, you are only allowed one thing!!). Next, pick the smallest, simplest step you can take in the direction of your goal. Using the above examples:
- To be healthier: Walk once around the block, every day, no excuses (not even the rain)
- To quit smoking: Next time you pick up the pack, set it down, put on the timer (start with 10 minutes and work your way up to 30). Then have your cigarette.
- Strengthen relationships: Text a message to one person once a week expressing your love for them.
- Improve your Bank Balance: Write down what you spend one day a week.
Put the index card with your goal and baby step on the fridge or your bathroom mirror. Commit to this practice and do not get ahead of yourself and add things you “have to do”. Two things happen when you make a subtle shift like this in your life:
- You make and keep a promise to yourself which triggers all sorts of positive feedback; your self-esteem improves; you appreciate yourself more; and you begin to feel like you deserve this.
- Over time you will want to make other changes to move you towards your goal. (Remember these are not commitments, simply a choice you might make on a particular day.)
Yoga has changed every aspect of my life and for the longest time I could not understand how touching my toes could possibly soothe my depression. I made a tiny shift in my life with the sole goal of easing constant back pain; I did a few poses most days and my pain went away, so I kept doing it.
I recently read Charles Duhigg’s “The Power of Habit” and he does a wonderful job of explaining our habits and how they impact our lives. Check it out from your local library.
No matter how enormous your ultimate goal might feel, find the smallest habit you can and begin there; I can almost guarantee that this simple act will change your world in untold ways.
Prepare for the abundance to come rushing in.
Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
― Mahatma Gandhi