Now that you have mastered lessons 1 and 2, let’s move right along and cover lesson 3!!
- Know thyself
- Love yourself
- Don’t judge people
- Be kind.
Don’t Judge People
This is a tough one for most of us; it certainly is for me at least. There are quotes about it:
- Judge not lest you be judged.
- Don’t judge person until you walk a mile in their shoes
Intellectually, it is easy to “know” not to judge another. Sadly, the reality is quite ugly. I have found two practices that have helped enormously.
The first – to pray for the person or group you are judging. Yup, you heard that right!! Say you roll your eyes every time you hear a news story about a particular, really bad (judgment) politician or political party; take 5 minutes of your day to pray for him/her/them. This is a great option when you don’t know the person or any members of a group.
The second – start a new habit that forces interaction and awareness of the person or group. Let’s say you think homeless people are lazy good-for-nothings (judgment); collect $5 bills and give one to any and every homeless person you meet AND talk to them when you give the money look them in the eye, smile,.
This is an ongoing lesson for me and these two practices help. I am currently working to balance each judgment I make with a positive thought or statement about that person/group. I am a work in progress.
I would love to hear how your progress manifests.