I hate to say it but this step is harder than the first one. In fact, obeying these two words may be the biggest challenge most of us face in our lives.
Simple? It can be.
Three habits to grow the (self) love:
- I have this note on the mirror in my bathroom. I see it every time I go in and I repeat it to myself. At least once a day I spend 10 seconds looking myself in the eye and I speak these words out loud.
- Practice forgiveness and compassion, for yourself and for others. It is certainly hard to forgive another person who has caused hurt, to pray for them, to hold them in my heart, to step back from judgment and finger-pointing. And yet, this simple act works beautifully. Pick one person who makes you angry, pray for them 5 minutes a day for a month, and watch the love blossom and grow. Now do the same thing for yourself!
- Don’t be so mean (to yourself). When I said something negative about myself, my sister used to reply, “Don’t you dare be so mean to my sister”. It is so easy to point out our faults, to hold ourselves to some ridiculous ideal. Ease up on the self criticism and start noticing your skills, talents and brilliance.
You are already pure, perfect and complete. You are already loving and lovable. The only thing left is to accept this as fact and love yourself!