In the words of Edmund Hilary – “It is not the mountain we conquer, but ourselves.” After multiple attempts (and failures) to summit Mt Everest, he and his team finally made it and the rest, as they say, is history.
What is it that makes us pick ourselves up, brush off an experience and take another step forward? And perhaps repeat the process … again and again and again…
Recently, we had an epic failure. And I do mean epic! It rattled our world, caused countless sleepless nights, physical illness, and mental and emotional anguish. We spent almost a year in this space and just last week stepped out from the shadows. I wouldn’t wish this experience on anyone.
What a way to grow! There is nothing quite like massive failure to force introspection, an evaluation of life and really getting straight on what’s important. There are several things we have learned that will change our lives going forward:
- Get clear on values. One of the reasons we found ourselves in the situation was because we were distracted by things that are not our priorities (and values). I now have a list of values hanging front and center in my office, reminding me of the qualities and actions by which I wish to be guided and defined.
- Always seek professional advice before making big decisions. If we had engaged a lawyer, we would not have found ourselves in the situation in the first place. Pay $1000 up front = sleep well + save oodles + be healthy.
- Trust your gut. For me this translates to spending time on my yoga mat – lots of slow poses and deep breathing, as well as plenty of walking the dog. It is a process that cannot be hurried. If someone needs a quick answer to a big decision in the future, we will respond with “no”.
Bottom line? Life goes on and we have a choice. Do we learn and grow or do we wallow in self-pity and beat ourselves up for the next year?
Like many before us, we will (hopefully) take this lesson to heart, clamber back to our feet, take a deep breath and put one foot in front of the other, forging a path filled with love, compassion and abundance.
It’s a little soon to claim recovery. I feel a little pummeled, a little morning-after-ish. To be completely honest, I am afraid to make any bold moves, to set my sights on a new goal, a new path. For now, I plan to walk my dog, practice yoga and appreciate the myriad blessings in my life.
I have no doubt that time will heal and life will continue. It always does.