What is a relationship? How do you define the relationships in your life? For me, a relationship is a soul interaction between myself and another (though as I wrote last month, the most significant relationship we can ever have is with ourselves). I received words of wisdom from a woman many years ago: “People come into your life; some for a reason, some for a season and some for a lifetime.” This has helped me accept the exit of many who have left their mark on my soul, always supporting my journey.
Today I learned a friend passed away and I am sad; sad because we were close for such a short time a while ago, sad because I liked her a lot and life took me in other directions, grateful because I knew her and grateful I will always have her signature on my soul.
It is difficult to lose a relationship to death and it is also difficult to lose a relationship to life. Every day, the memory of a friend, or ten, is triggered by a song, a word, an event; people I love dearly, people who most definitely left their mark in my life. Most of these people are alive and well and if we sat for tea tomorrow the years would melt away and our relationship would pick up where it left off. I am grateful to have the memories, they are such a beautiful interlude in my day.
I am busy, you are busy, everyone is busy. There is no way any of us could keep in touch with every person who has deeply touched our heart; whenever one of these faces pops into my head I smile and say my usual prayer: “May they know peace and the causes of peace, happiness and the causes of happiness.”
As we have been traveling the country I have come to understand that I can, in fact, stay better connected to those souls important in my life today. I send a postcard or a quick Facebook message, I text a photo or email a link to something I think they will enjoy. I wish I had the bandwidth to hold close all the people I still love but I don’t. Instead, I will be fully present to my present and when I have the opportunity to catch up with my past I will relish a cup of tea, a good natter, a hug and a kiss!
For today, I am grateful to have crossed paths with so many kind and loving souls, today I wish my friend safe travels.